How can we show someone body language that is welcoming and not controversial? Want to throw a party and welcome people, and be sincere to let them know you want to invite them and for them to be with you and your other partyers?
What not to do with your body that would turn them off? Specifically, any talking with one's hands and arms, is considered negative. The Zohar, a Jewish Holy book says that we should never talk to someone with the waving of our hands and arms. The Zohar says that Gd will cast upon you one hundred curses for this hand-talking. Especially not to converse with the moving of the left hand. Not to wave or flick or bounce your fingers or your hands. Not to cause others distress as you shake your hands at them. Not to reflect this back, to keep your hands on the hand-rests of your chair, not to battle back and forth with the hands being as weapons.
Positive body language? What can we do? Keep our hands still with palms facing upwards. This causes sincerity and welcomes the other person, shows compassion, and you in this stance can speak with empathy, to be welcoming to him.
Not to cross your legs or arms as you talk to people, to keep your arms and legs still. Not to wave your feet back and forth. To keep your legs still one next to the other, knees forward, feet directed towards your friends' feet.
Not to put your hands and arms on your hips. This looks threatening and scary, as if you want to argue and act controversial. Not to cross your arms across your chest.
Facial countenance? Always try to be truthfully cheerful. Give them a twinkling eye, a mouth with upwards turned lips, a smile, a feeling of laughter in the tone of your voice. Show and sound like you care about them if this is truly the case.
If they want to lead in the ways you both converse, mimic their body movements to show them you are following them and like what they are saying to you, if indeed you do. If not, let them know verbally. Tell them "no" if you mean NO, and also you can say "No Thank You!" which politely implies you do not agree and you do not follow them. How many ways can we say "No"? Try seventy. Look them in the eyes, and keep their gaze, to look into a Tiger's eyes and to stare him down into submission. He then will avert his eyes and you will have won the battle.
To welcome someone, do the opposite. Always keep a warmth in your character. To be gentle and nice, good and fine. To show your friend s/he is always welcome in your house, anytime, every time, your home being his/her home too.
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