HOW TO TAKE A COMPLIMENT

Taking compliments. Did you ever tell someone he is out of line to compliment you, that you are not the greatest, not any different than anyone else, not being great, not good, not great, not even fine?

Not Tony the Tiger, not Wonder woman, not Superman, nor Batman, that you are human and make mistakes. Did somewhere along the line someone tell you that you are arrogant because you accepted a compliment and therefore you are not deserving of praise. Did all you do was be happy with yourself, your achievements, and not sure if showing happiness about yourself is having a lack of humility. Does putting yourself down, not to accept praise, is this a state of being that is healthy??

How many ways can we say "thank you"? If someone likes the blouse you are wearing, a simple invigorated "Thanks!" is all that is necessary. Yes, a big smile in addition to this "thanks!" Your sincerity will be in your tone of voice and her in hers.

If someone likes a blog article you have written and says so, of course, do not delete it, publish it. All these positive comments are coming from people's hearts, they care about you, indifference is the worst insult. If someone challenges you on an achievement you have accomplished, meet their words with your words, accept their well-meaning words even if they do not know how to word their opinions. Let them know that their compliments are appreciated.

How good you feel now, how good you both feel. Are you telling your doctor every time you get a pain and need his medical council? Had surgeries and never want another one? 

Is there someone who tries to give you advice and you do not know if their words are advisable?

If they simply say "I like you" is this a compliment to be accepted? If you in return have told someone you liked them and this was not returned, yes, it can happen again and again; but don't give up!!! There will be someone who will meet your kind words with a heart felt "THANK YOU!"    

FATHER IS FARTHER; MOTHER IS HIS OTHER

 

 

Are you a kid in the middle? Or a kid the youngest of all? Or the oldest? Older meaning wiser, younger meaning funner, the middle dizzily with a sibling on top and again one on the bottom? Who are you? What is your identity? Are you the mentor to your younger sibling and a learner of an older sibling? Are you in touch with your family of origin at all? Is there someone in it who you love? Is there a parent still alive? Mom or Dad? Both? Neither!

Did you ever confide in a parent and had your privacy honored or not? Did your Mom ever say, "Don't tell your Dad" she trying desperately to keep the peace and to reduce stress for your Father so he did not become overwhelmed! Did you reserve your secrets for your diary? Was there a lock and key on your diary? Did your Sister listen? Did she try to care? Was she your only friend even in a schoolyard of kids your age. Did you ever thank her? Did your older brother fight off your bullies before they could cause you damage? Did you or will you tell him you appreciate all that he is and ever meant to you when you both were kids.

Do or did you have a parental relationship where you were able to see how strongly was your Dad's love for his Wife, your Mom. Did he tell you that as much as possible, to never dishonor your Mother his Wife. Was she happy to have him as her companion, was this obvious as you saw him smile at her and hold her hand? Could you feel this love between them and therefore be able yourself to love others? His Wife as his significant other. Your Father close to her and she being close to you. To have love going back and forth like trout swimming up and downstream in a fish farm. 

This fish being a tasty morsel. Your Dad's love for his Wife as an example for you to show love to everyone else in your life.

Where is God in all this? He is in this love for your Mom by your Dad and she loving him back and also loving you.