To keep your positive focus, intentions and centeredness, it is imperative to bite your tongue and not to allow yourself the evil intention to gossip about others or to slander them in writing on paper in print.
Not to do damage like Miriam the Prophetess when she spoke ill to everyone indiscriminately about her brother Moses, instead of going directly to Moses about her problem with him, she went to others and talked of her problem with him, this is called "gossiping." The result of her unholy actions was that G-D struck her dead with the illness of leprosy.
It was a family concern that Miriam had with Moses. Moses left his wife Tzipporah high and dry to be a single Mom, and this distressed Miriam because Tzipporah was Miriam's sister-in-law. But instead of going to Moses with her concern for the welfare and future of Tzipporah and Moses's role as Father of Tzipporah's child, Miriam went to outside sources to complain about Moses and to ruin his reputation.
Lesson to be learned: Do not go to anyone on the outside if you are having a problem with another individual, especially if that person is family, instead go directly to that person who you have the problem with only, and talk to him/her about your concerns. This is the only way the problem can be solved. Introducing a third person into the problem, whether or not it is kept "confidential" will not solve the problem. Being forthright and direct, bold and honest in your dealings with others is of extreme importance. Problems could be imagined and created where there originally were no problems if a third person is introduced into the situation.
To solve your problems with other people, give them the respect of letting them know you care about your relationship with them and want to improve the relationship so there would not be a problem, do not talk to other people about them, do no gossiping or slandering of them behind their backs.
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