How to raise your self-esteem? How to feel good about yourself, to climb Jacob's Ladder and get to the top, and finding out the top is at the bottom, sliding down Jacob's Ladder again. Moses received God's Tablets at the foot of Mount Sinai, not at the top.
Standing in lines? Waiting for a cashier? Elderly and/or disabled go first, no matter when you got into line or when they did. If it is a regular person behind you, not elderly, then you needn't give up your spot. You got there first and you should be waited on first.
Bus seats? If not a senior citizen or disabled, no need to give it up.
Talking at a meeting? Let all say what they want to say before you. The one to speak last laughs first.
Never interrupt someone unless they are speaking in vile language. Is there a pecking order? Follow it. Are you supposed to go first at all cost? Try to be last and see how it feels! This act will lower your "sitra achra" which is the animal soul we all possess in the left part of our heart. Waiting for someone else to be served meals before yours lowers this sitra achra [wickedness]. Puts you in a position to be last which raises your self esteem, believe it or not! Because the Jewish rule is that Jewish scholars eat last. This lowers the animal soul's natural "wickedness," not to selfishly put yourself first.
Not to claim you are a wonder wo/man or superman that you are better than everyone else and that you must go first. While you are waiting to eat, talk to God. Take this time to pray all the Hebrew blessings of all the foods you will eat, and that others are eating before you. Get in touch with God, salivate, be gracious, be forgiving.
Were you offered a piece of chicken too large for your appetite? Offer the chicken to someone else. Who to offer it to? The stranger, the widowed, the homeless, the orphan, the poor, the motherless, the fatherless, the childless. Then take a smaller piece of chicken for yourself.
How else can we get in touch with God at mealtimes? After we eat, leave a morsel on your plate and this is to go as a gift to God. A piece of food for God as a loving offering, for God to be sated and Him to not go hungry. Offer it to Him with love and generosity in your heart.
How does your self esteem go up when you are going last? Try it. Not to be the arrogant king/queen who claims to be better than everyone else because of their family tree being so-called "royal." To truly love God first and therefore to eat last while others and God eat before you.
Feels good? Seeing others happily sating their appetites? Can you imagine how much better your food will taste knowing the poor, etc. are no longer hungry?
Try it. You'll like it.
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